There are probably no less than 3569756395 questions going through your head (that’s a very accurate number). I’m here to walk you through every question you have along the way, but here are some of the most common ones.
CAN I BRING A FRIEND?
Friends and partners are a fantastic support system and can be our biggest cheerleaders. They can make things more fun, but I want you to take a breath and make this ordering session about you. Enjoy your own moment, and show them the gorgeous artwork when it comes in.
I’M NOT LOCAL, HOW DOES THIS WORK FOR ME?
Plenty of women travel in for their session, or bring me out to them. We can either do a same-day ordering session (I would send you out for a meal on me), or we can view your photos via Skype.
I DON’T OWN ANY CRAZY LINGERIE. WILL THAT AFFECT MY SESSION?
Of course not! Boudoir wardrobes are what you make them. It can be your favorite tee and boy shorts, or that bathing suit that makes you feel like a million bucks.
Not sure what you want to wear? Let me know! We can walk through ideas that fit the vibe you are going for. I have a wardrobe in inclusive sizes that you will have access to and can recommend plenty of places to purchase some new pieces if you want to use your session as an excuse to buy something new for yourself.
IS IT NORMAL FOR ALL OF THIS TO BE NERVE-WRACKING?
Absolutely! Almost every woman goes in nervous as all get out, so don’t feel uncomfortable about that. Hair and makeup end up being the perfect time to get those nerves out. We put on a playlist that you love and dance it out during our session. It’s a lot less of that awkward posing we all had as a senior and a lot more of you feeling like a queen.
If it makes you feel any better, I spent a good 20 minutes before my own boudoir session sitting in my car with my best friends yelling at me to go inside via group chat.
I DON’T FEEL GREAT ABOUT MYSELF RIGHT NOW, WHY WOULD I WANT A SESSION?
First of all, you are a damn queen right now. You are making it through day-to-day, take a breath and celebrate that. Second, your size, role as a mother, and phase of life have no effect on your beauty in any negative way.
The valleys in life are the best time to pause and dedicate an afternoon to self-care. This session would help to re-frame your mindset and how you relate to your own body. I can promise you won’t leave feeling the same about yourself as you did going into your session.
If you want to use this session as a celebration of a body goal you have or want to accomplish, let’s do it. But, don’t let some bad days keep you from doing something empowering for yourself right now.
DO YOU WORK WITH ALL SIZES AND SEXUAL IDENTITIES?
Absolutely yes. I am so deeply sorry this is a question that even has to be asked. It’s an honor to photograph all womxn. Nothing will ever be assumed about your relationship with your body, or how you identify. My goal first and foremost is to empower you, so there will never be any judgment.
From the start of creating this business, it has been absolutely essential to create a space that celebrates everyone — all bodies, shapes, skin tones, gender identities. Having amazing images is not dependent on any of those factors, it’s about you.
WHAT IF I WANT TO KEEP MY PHOTOS PRIVATE?
Your comfort is my top priority, especially with the intimate nature of boudoir. If you would like your images to remain private, they will not be seen by anyone but you. There is absolutely no pressure to sign any form of model release, and I take every step possible to ensure your photographs stay as private as you would like them to be.
WHAT COMES WITH RETOUCHING?
Every image you receive will be fully-retouched. Each photo is edited by hand to ensure it looks as perfect as possible. This includes color, contrast, and light skin retouching. You will still look like you, and your skin will still look like skin.
However, this does not include re-shaping your body. We want to help you feel exquisite within your own skin instead of seeing a version of yourself that fits an idealized standard of beauty.
I WANT TO DO THIS AS A GIFT FOR MY PARTNER. How can the session be something they will like?
A gift for a partner(s) is one of the more common reasons why we think of a participating in a boudoir session. We can absolutely create works of art for your partner(s), but I implore you to book the session for yourself. It’s easy to break it down into an assortment of “this is what they love best,” and “this is what they find sexy.”
Do yourself a favor and dig deeper than that. Your partner finds YOU beautiful. Dress in a way that feels right for you and let yourself be photographed how you feel your best. You will feel like a queen, and in turn, your partner will love them even more than they thought they could because they see their love in those images.
WHY DO I NEED THIS MANY PICTURES OF JUST ME?
As women, we are often found on the outskirts of photographs. We hide behind children or make ourselves a diminutive as possible in pictures. Our walls are filled up with photos of our loved ones, but images of just ourselves don’t exist.
Do not be afraid or bashful about taking up space; whether it is within your own life or on your wall. Exist in those photographs and celebrate yourself. Seeing those images in your daily life will be a constant reminder of your grace, strength, beauty, and kick-ass sense of self.
